I have two sets of nephews and nieces. 26 in total. The first set are between the ages of 38 to 52 years. The second set is between 23 to 33 years old. The first set has produced a total of 30 offsprings. That number seemed to be quite stable now, while the second set have a total no of 6 offsprings, almost 7 in a week's time, in sha Allah. Therefore if my parents are still alive they would have 26 grandchildren, 35 great grandchildren, that coming from a family of 12 out of which only 9 were married.
My late elder brother's family are in Johor Bahru except for his youngest son who is in Kuala Lumpur now ( previously working in Mumbai for 4 years ). The late second brother's family are in Singapre, 1 niece and 2 nephews with 2 sons from the middle boy (now a man of course). I can go on and on. What amazes me is to see how each of my siblings raised their children and now watching how my nephews and nieces raise their own children. That includes my own children of course.
The differences can be associated with their exposure, their spouses, the new environment, the extended family, their exposure to religious education, to sports, to art and music. There are doctors, teachers, engineers, technicians and not forgetting the homemakers, the most important of all the profession. In sha Allah presently all in the family lives well. The question is what should be the true focus in the children's upbringing.
There is no manual on how to be good parents but if you follow The Book you will not be wrong. As parents The Book is your guide. Have it close to your heart. Simply reciting it is not enough for one must understand. Let the children understand from young, plan for them to learn the Arabic language making it easy to study The Book. If you plan for them to have The Book in their hearts and soul, you don't even have to teach them. They will automatically use The Book as guide. Let them be doctors, lawyers, teachers or no matter what they become as long as they have The Book in their hearts. Only then can we measure success in the true sense of the word. Success in this world would be what brings one to a better life in the hereafter. Let that be the future for our generations.
For motivation, I know a couple who has 6 children all of whom were made to study Arabic. Now 3 are in Mesir, 2 doctors to be, the other a Hafiz reading Usulluddin. The other 3 are still in Malaysia, 2 are learning to become Hafiz and all 3 will be going to South Africa for their studies later. Talking about having to plan for the children, can anything be better than this. If we take care of Allah, Allah will take care of us. That's Allah's promise not mine.
My late elder brother's family are in Johor Bahru except for his youngest son who is in Kuala Lumpur now ( previously working in Mumbai for 4 years ). The late second brother's family are in Singapre, 1 niece and 2 nephews with 2 sons from the middle boy (now a man of course). I can go on and on. What amazes me is to see how each of my siblings raised their children and now watching how my nephews and nieces raise their own children. That includes my own children of course.
There is no manual on how to be good parents but if you follow The Book you will not be wrong. As parents The Book is your guide. Have it close to your heart. Simply reciting it is not enough for one must understand. Let the children understand from young, plan for them to learn the Arabic language making it easy to study The Book. If you plan for them to have The Book in their hearts and soul, you don't even have to teach them. They will automatically use The Book as guide. Let them be doctors, lawyers, teachers or no matter what they become as long as they have The Book in their hearts. Only then can we measure success in the true sense of the word. Success in this world would be what brings one to a better life in the hereafter. Let that be the future for our generations.
For motivation, I know a couple who has 6 children all of whom were made to study Arabic. Now 3 are in Mesir, 2 doctors to be, the other a Hafiz reading Usulluddin. The other 3 are still in Malaysia, 2 are learning to become Hafiz and all 3 will be going to South Africa for their studies later. Talking about having to plan for the children, can anything be better than this. If we take care of Allah, Allah will take care of us. That's Allah's promise not mine.
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