When bad things are 'done' to you, your first reaction is I shall not forgive him/her. At times it is really you who let things happen because of your own earlier choices. At other times we are too quick to say that it was all fated/taqdir.
One of the antidotes to the viruses of the heart is the will to forgive. As long as you have not forgiven, there will always be that lump in the heart. You will avoid meeting the person who caused you the hurt, out of hate for what he or she did to you. Hate is also one of the viruses of the heart. As a muslim we have to get rid of that in ourselves otherwise syaitan would be rejoicing and we lose when they have won.
So how do you learn to forgive. It's not easy to just say, 'I forgive you' if the heart doesn't feel so. Hold on to what is required of us as a Muslim and practice it. As example in Islam you have to ensure that silaturrahim is never severed. If you are divorced as example, do not stop your ex from meeting up with your children. That way you look at it as doing what Islam requires, thus you do not stop this from happening. You take it that it is your responsibility to allow your ex to have the close relationship with your children. This way the children shall benefit from the close ties with their father. Once you have forgiven, you can actually communicate with your ex and not feel the hate and the hurt anymore. That is when you know you are healed, all with the help of Allah s.w.t.
Many more situations that requires us to forgive and why not? The guide is - what are we expected to do to be a good muslim and follow through. If Allah can forgive us even if we have sinned as much as the open seas, who are we not to forgive someone. Relieve the hurt by forgiving oneself and you will feel free from any unseen burden. Seek Allah's guidance and you will be fine.
One of the antidotes to the viruses of the heart is the will to forgive. As long as you have not forgiven, there will always be that lump in the heart. You will avoid meeting the person who caused you the hurt, out of hate for what he or she did to you. Hate is also one of the viruses of the heart. As a muslim we have to get rid of that in ourselves otherwise syaitan would be rejoicing and we lose when they have won.
So how do you learn to forgive. It's not easy to just say, 'I forgive you' if the heart doesn't feel so. Hold on to what is required of us as a Muslim and practice it. As example in Islam you have to ensure that silaturrahim is never severed. If you are divorced as example, do not stop your ex from meeting up with your children. That way you look at it as doing what Islam requires, thus you do not stop this from happening. You take it that it is your responsibility to allow your ex to have the close relationship with your children. This way the children shall benefit from the close ties with their father. Once you have forgiven, you can actually communicate with your ex and not feel the hate and the hurt anymore. That is when you know you are healed, all with the help of Allah s.w.t.
Many more situations that requires us to forgive and why not? The guide is - what are we expected to do to be a good muslim and follow through. If Allah can forgive us even if we have sinned as much as the open seas, who are we not to forgive someone. Relieve the hurt by forgiving oneself and you will feel free from any unseen burden. Seek Allah's guidance and you will be fine.
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