When Almira was a little baby, she is still little actually (2yrs 9 mths) we use to recite the tasbih to her before she falls asleep and later whenever we recite the tasbih, she would go to her comforter and lay down with her head on her pillow pretending to go to sleep. Such conditioned action. The other activity was watching 'Pingu' and today when I phoned my son to ask to speak to her she didn't want to speak to me as she was not batting an eyelid from watching 'Pingu'. Dearest son said that she would watch Pingu again and again and again with such concentration. Short movie without words and yet so motivating to a kid that age. Should ask her one day why she loves to watch that. Such conditioned actions.
Unconditional then must mean that it is not conditioned. Thus, unconditional love on the other hand need not exist through repeated actions to gain love, thus its 'unconditioned' situation. Unconditional love should exist upon birth, between a mother and her child or a father and his child, grandparents and their grandchildren or among siblings. Does unconditional love exist beyond this immediate relationship? It should exist at least between an aunt/uncle with a nephew or niece and all those that are related as stated in surah an-Nisa' Ayat 22 & 23. Basically whom one can't marry must exist this unconditional love. They are entrusted to you to be loved just like they are entrusted to you to be taken care of espcially if you are the guys in the family.
Love them unconditionally, even if they don't prepare delicious chicken soup, or they withdraw into their 'caves' when they are upset about something, or when they climb down their 'well' when they want to be alone, when they show their tempers once in a while, when they don't come and visit when you are sick, when they don't seem to help when you are in need of them, when they finish up your favourite ice-cream in the fridge, when they burp and fart aloud in your presence, when you leave the house messy, when you don't clean the kitchen etc... and the list goes on.
Can it ever exist between a husband and a wife? Unlikely especially at the initial stages. Before marriage normally a person will love another for various reasons example one loves another because he or she is kind, good looking/beautiful, polite, responsible, romantic thus the love blossoms. Then later when the good looks and beauty fades, rudeness prevails, irresponsibility is the name of the game the love will fade and soon diminish. Unless through the lifetime they share together comes the feeling of 'I will love you no matter what' then the conditional love may see the daylight of unconditional love. All too often it doesn't end that way but for a couple I once knew it was so hard to be separated after a lifetime together and a hundred days was long enough to live without the other partner. Al-Fatihah to my late mother and father-in-law. So, unconditional love can eventually exist between spouses..... or strangers.
Love them unconditionally, even if they don't prepare delicious chicken soup, or they withdraw into their 'caves' when they are upset about something, or when they climb down their 'well' when they want to be alone, when they show their tempers once in a while, when they don't come and visit when you are sick, when they don't seem to help when you are in need of them, when they finish up your favourite ice-cream in the fridge, when they burp and fart aloud in your presence, when you leave the house messy, when you don't clean the kitchen etc... and the list goes on.
Can it ever exist between a husband and a wife? Unlikely especially at the initial stages. Before marriage normally a person will love another for various reasons example one loves another because he or she is kind, good looking/beautiful, polite, responsible, romantic thus the love blossoms. Then later when the good looks and beauty fades, rudeness prevails, irresponsibility is the name of the game the love will fade and soon diminish. Unless through the lifetime they share together comes the feeling of 'I will love you no matter what' then the conditional love may see the daylight of unconditional love. All too often it doesn't end that way but for a couple I once knew it was so hard to be separated after a lifetime together and a hundred days was long enough to live without the other partner. Al-Fatihah to my late mother and father-in-law. So, unconditional love can eventually exist between spouses..... or strangers.
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